More Thanks, More Happiness

By: Ted Crawford, LMFT, Clinical Therapist Pine Grove Behavioral Health & Addiction Services


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The spirit of November’s holiday is gratitude. But giving gratefulness more airtime in our heads year-round could do wonders for our psychological health. Research clearly demonstrates the direct relationship between gratitude and happiness. I’d like to share some information from Sonja Lyubomirsky’s book, The How of Happiness. In it, she lists several ways that practicing gratefulness increases your happiness.

1. Deliberately recognizing and relishing our joyous moments allows us to milk the positivity from our experiences which aids in diluting the negativity in our lives. As a therapist, for example, when I enjoy the hope a client begins to feel, it helps me cope with the times when my support and guidance doesn’t seem to be adequate.

2. When we reflect on what others have done for us and how much we’ve accomplished, it can bolster our self-esteem. This also helps us unlearn the unfortunate and more natural habit of focusing on our setbacks and times when others have hurt us.

3. Occasionally, we experience a brush with the loss of something precious and feel a deeper appreciation for it, or we actually lose something precious and our scope of gratefulness for other things previously taken for granted becomes much wider. In the days right after the 9/11 terrorist attack, gratitude was found to be the second most commonly experienced emotion after sympathy. Focusing on what you appreciate the most during adversity helps us reinterpret stressful or traumatic events.

4. Expressing gratitude chokes the life out of envy. Those more likely to be thankful for what they have are less likely to pay attention to the neighbor’s awesome vacations and twice a week house-cleaning services.

5. Gratitude is also incompatible with other negative emotions, i.e., when we’re feeling it, it’s taking up the space where anger and bitterness would otherwise be, thereby diminishing the time these destructive feelings spend swarming around in your mind and body. Side note: Anger, by itself, is not destructive. It’s natural, and when the energy of it is used for asserting one’s needs or self-preservation instead of leaving it stagnant and seething, it’s a good thing.

6. Grateful people tend to be less materialistic because their focus is on what they truly value the most. In one study, people who were asked to focus on gratitude for a specific act of kindness were not only more likely to reciprocate this kindness toward the giver, but also more likely to do the same for a stranger, even when it involved doing a chore that was tedious or unpleasant. In this way, gratitude encourages us to actively love others.

7. Those who feel gratitude toward certain people tend to feel more bonded to those people, even when their appreciation goes unexpressed. We tend to treat these people better and it strengthens the relationship. Additionally, grateful people are generally more positive, which attracts others, thus, the opportunity for more relationships. More relationships equal a larger base of support.

I certainly hope you let this holiday of Thanksgiving be just that. There’s no better way to kick off the season (or the rest of your life)!

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