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Motivational speaker and author Justin Lookadoo gave a speech at a Texas high school that ruffled a few feathers. (Source: Justin Lookadoo website) Motivational speaker and author Justin Lookadoo gave a speech at a Texas high school that ruffled a few feathers. (Source: Justin Lookadoo website)
The 10 rules for "dateable girls" from Justin Lookadoo. (Source: rudateable.com) The 10 rules for "dateable girls" from Justin Lookadoo. (Source: rudateable.com)
The 10 rules for "dateable boys," according Justin Lookadoo. (Source: rudateable.com) The 10 rules for "dateable boys," according Justin Lookadoo. (Source: rudateable.com)

RICHARDSON, TX (RNN) – Some students at one Texas high school didn't enjoy their assembly Wednesday, and it wasn't because they missed classes.

Faith-based motivational speaker and author Justin Lookadoo gave a speech at Richardson High School in Richardson, TX. The speech, based on Lookadoo's two books on dating and the opposite sex, gave examples about the rules of teen relationships that didn't sit well with some students.

The rules, listed on the website rudateable.com (meaning "Are you dateable"), are prefaced with the message, "If you believe the dateable rules and are ready to commit to the list, then read on, brave one!" The website also features an "R.U. Dateable" quiz.

The messages are meant to empower youth, but the definitions could confuse those who choose the message of dating for teens.

For young women, the rules includes "accept your girly-ness" and "tell it like it is."

"Be mysterious," rule no. 6 says. "Dateable girls know how to shut up. They don't monopolize the conversation. They don't tell everyone everything about themselves. Save some for later. They listen more than they gab."

"Need him," rule no. 10 says. "Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn't Miss Independent. She knows we are made for community. Needing each other is part of faith. She allows him to be needed at times, knowing he was called to serve just as much as she was."

The message for the young men?

"Being a guy is good," the first dateable rule for boys says. "Dateable guys know they aren't as sensitive as girls and that's okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that's okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren't afraid to be guys."

Lookadoo also tells boys in his rules that "men of God are wild, not domesticated. Dateable guys aren't tamed. They don't live by the rules of the opposite sex. They fight battles, conquer lands, and stand up for the oppressed."

None of the rules were specifically mentioned during the assembly, and Lookadoo told Dallas affiliate WFAA that he tailors his interpretation of the Christian message for schools.

The message did not resonate with the modern teenage crowd. After the assembly, Lookadoo was met by a crowd of students who questioned his message.

Since the speech at Richardson High School Wednesday, the students in attendance have taken to Twitter and voiced their opinion on the message, following them with the hastag, #lookadouche. Many of the students called Lookadoo's speech sexist, misogynistic, outdated and wrong.

"What are we mad about?! I love being called a vindictive, evil, creature! Someone boss me around because I have ovaries! #lookadouche," Sydney Stephens tweeted.

Another student didn't enjoy the assembly but tweeted "this whole Lookadoo assembly thing has been blown wayyyyyy out of proportion....."

Parents familiar with Lookadoo spoke to school officials about canceling the event, and while the school postponed it, the event was allowed to go on and was made optional for students, according to the Texas Freedom Network Insider.

According to the Dallas Observer, the assembly was an "optional PTA-sponsored event." Lookadoo also spoke at the high school in 2009, according to the Dallas Morning News.

Richardson High School is not Lookadoo's only stop on his speaking tour. According to his calendar of events, he is booked at middle and high schools, colleges, conferences and camps through summer 2014.

Lookadoo has been associated with the now-defunct Exodus International and their "pray the gay away" summer programs for teenagers.

A petition on the left-leaning website moveon.org was posted to stop Lookadoo's next speaking engagement at another Texas high school.

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